At some point, things always get old to me. I have a severe case of wanderlust, but I’m also in college and have no money. I wish I could travel to NYC on my off days and take pictures of the people. I wish I could go back to Joshua Tree and climb rocks again. I just want to adventure…get out of Orlando. I used to think I had a small town mindset, because growing up I always wanted to get away from my small town in Alabama. Now, I’ve moved on to Orlando and a little over a year later, I’m ready to move on to the next place. Part of me wonders if I could ever be the person that settles down, and the more I’ve thought about it the more I’ve realized that I don’t know when or if ever I’ll be able to.

This made me to question: Is there a problem with wanderlust addiction?

Now, there’s several people out there that would say no, but those are usually the people that want to travel the rest of their lives and never really have a family. They’re okay with roaming around from place to place, maybe not single, but without knowing or experiencing having a family. Personally, hats off to them, but I want to one day have a family, and in the past, my wanderlust has served as a major block in relationships. I guess that’s when it comes down to just finding the right person, someone with similar interests and goals to explore and never look back, but to also get to a place that you both love so much, you can’t resist the temptation of staying awhile. That would be nice, wouldn’t it? But, we all know it’s not that easy to find “The One”, and no one should put their lives on hold to do so.

So, again, back to the main question: Is there a problem with wanderlust addiction?

For me, I’d say no. We were made curious. We were made to be natural explorers. Not many people act on it, but those who do or those that really want to, shouldn’t let others hold them back from that. I’ve found that “wanderlust” isn’t a fad or a spur-of-the-moment thing. Those who experience it, experience it often because it’s a part of them. Those surrounding you, if they’re truly good friends, or a good spouse, or whatever it may be: they’ll want to help you seek out the adventurous side of yourself. Plus, it’s fun! Imagine: traveling the world with friends, family, or a boyfriend/girlfriend. You’d be making memories, and it doesn’t matter how old you are. There’s not a set age for settling down. You don’t have to get married and have kids by twenty-five, which where I come from is what everyone seems to believe, which is another thing I want to touch on.

You are your own person. Even in a relationship, you’re going to have wants and needs that are different from your other half. You can’t let that person hold you back, and if they’re truly the one, they wouldn’t try to hold you back. Experience life together. Get out there and do something you’ve never done before. Fulfill your wanderlust desires, because in the end, life is impossibly short. One day, you’re sixteen, getting your driving license, and the next you’re thirty-five. Don’t get half-way through your life and have regrets.

So, again, is wanderlust a problem? Absolutely not. It’s a healthy addiction that will fuel the stories you’ll tell your kids (if you want kids) or your friends and family. It’s a healthy way to leave an impact on the planet you live on by exploring and sharing your explorations. You’re not alone in your want to move from place to place. You’ll meet so many new people, and maybe you’ll even meet “The One”, but don’t hold yourself back because everyone else says it’s time to stay put. Indulge in your opportunities to broaden your mind and look beyond the average life. Then, when you find the perfect place – the place that makes you satisfied every time you wake up in the morning – stay awhile.

Always,

Jinapher J. Hoffman